Trevor Gabbidon, author of Daughters Grow Up So Fast: From A Father’s Perspective, joined me on the Podcast this week. We had such an exciting conversation about the intricacies of being a girl dad. I enjoyed listening to him talk about being a father and enjoying the ride and experiences of a girl dad.
The Mind of a Girl Dad
Ever wonder what goes on in the mind of a girl-dad? Trevor and I dive into what goes on in the mind of a dad as he watches his little girl grow up. Trevor and I also discussed how raising girls differs from raising boys and the essential things every young father should know when they become a parent.
Making Changes as a Girl Dad
Children grow up so fast. When a man becomes a father, especially a young father, it speeds up a man’s growth. When Trevor became a dad, he realized that he needed to make changes to his lifestyle, no more hanging out as he did in the past; he realized that he needed to become more helpful and supportive to the mother of his daughter.
Studies have shown that having a daughter can positively impact a father’s brain. This week’s What I Wish Podcast episode is an excellent testament to the effects on the brain when a man becomes a girl dad. Trevor’s experience highlighted for him the tools he lacked as a father. He lacked the tools such as what to do when a girl starts dating, when she starts her cycle, how to discipline a girl, and what she needs to prepare for the future.
Disciplining a Boy vs. Disciplining a Girl
Every child wants to be loved. Discipline should correct behavior with love. It is vital to a girl’s growth and self-worth to be taught that love never hurts. A father is responsible for teaching his daughter that physical, mental, and emotional abuse should not be tolerated. A dad is also responsible for determining the best approach when correcting his little girl to ensure that behavior is corrected without causing pain or harm.
Trevor and I talked about the importance of not normalizing physical abuse as a form of love for a young girl; she will grow up believing that physical abuse is a form of love and will be more susceptible to accepting abuse from her future partner.
The Best Kind of Girl Dads
I am fortunate to have one of the best human beings as my stepdad. I use my stepdad as the gold standard for the best girl dad. What makes the best girl dad?
- Affirming your daughter
- Be vulnerable with your daughter.
- Be the Best Example of how a partner should treat her
- Encourage her strengths and uniqueness
- Find Ways to Boost their Self-Esteem
- Have an open line of communication
Trevor presented five tips for young fathers.
- Be ready for what life will throw at you when you become a father.
- Don’t hurt your child while you are in the process of adjusting to fatherhood.
- Be mindful not to hurt the child if your relationship falls apart.
- Put on your big boy pants and be as present as possible
- Be the dad that you wanted as a child.
Thanks for exploring this topic with me.