How do you find joy when the world is filled with sadness? I recently received a text from my very dear friend asking, “why is there no love in the world?” to which I responded, “what do you mean?” and she went on to explain that there is no joy, no love, so much hatred. Even when you read a positive and uplifting post on social media, there is at least one negative comment. Our daily exposure to the internet, the news, our own lives may lead us to sadness. How do we find joy in all of it?
I agree there is so much negativity in the world. The year 2020 has definitely brought its share of negativity and gloom to the world as a whole. How do we then go about managing all of the negative experiences?
Find Joy in The Simple Things
The world has become so small, with people sharing every bit of their life online. Watching other people’s lives unfold, we become envious and begin to dissect our own life; and conclude that our life and daily experiences are all insignificant. By observing the “exciting” lives of others, we then admire them and want what they have. The cars, the shoes, the bags, the perfectly behaved, well dressed, and always put together kids.
We then make it our lives mission to have a “good life” and convince ourselves that acquiring “stuff” will lead us to joy.
Finding joy in our lives is as simple as appreciating the simple things around as. Andy Warhol said it best:
You need to let the little things that would ordinarily bore you suddenly thrill you.”
As I listened to my friend discuss the displeasures of life, I began to remind her of all of the little joys, like the love of a child, her patients, the feeling that shows up when someone gives her a good, genuine compliment, the assurance that comes from her relationship with God.
For each of us, some things make us happy. Each day our lives are filled with little things that, when combined, make a big difference. When you consider the small moments of life, they are usually so minor and seem so insignificant, but they make the most lasting impact.
“Find joy in the little things in life…for one day you will look back and realize they were the big things”
When times of uncertainty and sadness surrounds you, find joy in the smallest and simplest of things in your life.
Enjoy the Moments.
Life is uncertain most of the time, but one thing remains constant, change. Change is sure to happen, and the moments of our lives pass by whether we like it or not.
My children give me joy, having my husband as my life partner. My team at work, who each and everyday counsel individuals who are homeless or women who are fleeing domestic violence, helping them to find stability, helps me to see good in humanity. When my daughter sends me an “I love you” text or celebrating a milestone with a loved one, having a drink with a girlfriend, etc.
“Enjoy this moment…This moment is your life”
Enjoy the moments, regardless of its temporary nature. Yes, the joy from a child’s hug or time with friends may be fleeting, enjoy it. Although we would prefer to have that fuzzy feeling for much longer, they are not lasting. So enjoy the moments, appreciate them for what they are, recognize them for what they give to you, even for a short moment.
What are things in your life that you must do each day? are these things that you look forward to doing? Make the moments you spend doing those things enjoyable. Like I MUST drink coffee every single day; I look forward to my first sip of coffee, so I decided to cherish my morning coffee, I make my coffee, sit outside and enjoy the quietness and the sweet aroma of coffee.
Find joy in your favorite meals, or your commute, in making breakfast, or ordering lunch. Find the things you enjoy doing and savor the moments you spend doing them. Turn simple moments into memories of pleasure.
The Memories are Forever
Research has shown that maintaining positive memories generate positive emotions and provide a safe way to manage our thoughts.
Nothing lasts forever, but the memories we make do. So, why not focus on the memories? When you are having a stressful day, consider changing your perspective and refocusing your mind on the things that bring you joy. A loved one, a pet, a job, a client, your favorite dress, music, coffee? If you have not yet figured out what the little joys in your life are, then take the time to determine those now.
thanks for exploring this topic with me